Life is filled with twist and turns, unexpected occurrences, mistakes and regrets. We all have some would've, could've and should've in our lives, but we must learn to learn from all these events and move on. Allow your past to be a teacher, but never allow your past to hold you captive. Many people make the unnecessary choice to limit themselves because of the past, becoming a prisoner to fear, doubt and unbelief. Distrusting themselves and the potential that is on the inside of them. In my book the 9 Practices to Guarantee a GREAT Day (available for free download on my resources page of my website) I say you have to give people permission to be human. The same is true for yourself, you must give yourself permission to be human.
I want you to do something very powerful, I want you to write yourself a Forgiveness Letter. In this letter, tell yourself that you forgive yourself, and you longer choose to be a prisoner of the past. Your letter can be short or long, that's up to you. But I want you to forgive yourself of every mistake, bad decision and regret you have made in the past. Then I want you to tell yourself that you know you will make more mistakes and bad decisions in the future, but you promise yourself to learn from them and not punish yourself. At the end of the letter, give yourself PERMISSION to be GREAT! Remember, Think Better, Live Better www.facebook.com/drwillspeaks www.twitter.com/moldlegacy
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Do you find yourself DOING a lot of things, but seem to be getting no where? Maybe it's because you are being busy and not productive. Productive and busy are totally two different worlds a part. I call busy the treadmill syndrome, you are sweating, you are moving, your legs hurt, but you are in the same place. You even brag that you went five miles, but actually it was the same as you riding around in a circle in your car.
Successful people have learned it's not about being busy, but being productive. Productive people can do less than a busy person, but have greater results. Let me give you an example, I am a professional speaker and I provide leadership training to corporations. Each week I devote a certain amount of time to introducing myself and my services to new potential clients. I must ensure that the corporations I contact need my services and can afford my services. I could send out 100 emails to companies that don't need or cannot afford my services. Now to say I sent out 100 emails may sound impressive, but it's not productive. See, I could send out five emails to the "RIGHT" cliental, receive two conformations back, and that would be more productive than receiving 25 emails from the wrong client. So, do an assessment on your activities, are they really returning value to you, or are you wasting time, effort, money and energy. The Law of Productivity says I receive high value return for my efforts. Remember, Think Better, Live Better What are some of the key traits you deem valuable to a leader? Vision, character, trust, love and influence are some of the things that come to my mind. But one of the most valuable tools in my tool box is INSIGHT.
Insight by definition is the immediate understanding of the significance of an event or action. Developing this all important trait will prove to be invaluable on your leadership journey. Everyday we are faced with challenges, obstacles, test, trials or whatever you want to call them. Being able to understand what happen, why it happened and how it happen is essential to successful leadership. The quicker you are at utilizing insight, the faster you can put a plan in action or know your next movement. Now, let me put a marker right here. When I say understand why something happened, I am not talking about always knowing the reason, some thinks we cannot explain. But gather all the information you can and use your insight to make the correct decisions. I don’t only rely on my personal insight; I have a league of mentors, counselors and advisors I tap into as well. Especially when a situation that I have not personally dealt with arises, I without hesitation call upon others. They help me chart a course for my next move. I have learned that one size does not fit all in my leadership journey. So, I have learned to rely on insight to make critical decisions. Some times I hear leaders say it’s “Black and White” no gray areas. But in reality, there are gray areas. Two people can do the exact same thing, but for totally different reasons. Employing insight will allow you to make the right call. Let’s say for example, two employees are late for work. One was late because they over slept, the other because they had a flat tire. Should both receive repercussions, should only one? Insight gives you the ability to make these tough choices. If you are just starting or developing in your leadership journey, surround yourself with people that have great insight, don’t go it alone. Insight has served me well, and I am sure it will be a great companion for you as well. p.s. Have you down loaded my FREE new E-book "9 Practices to Guarantee a GREAT Day"? Click Here! Think Better, Live Better |
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